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Was planning to revisit dating after partner died but usual sites tinder etc didn’t appeal - and some sites are over the top! IE provides a very happy medium and the assistance on offer to construc... See more
All the 'women' I spoke with at length eventually asked me for money. The platform is full of scammers. What's more, the platform doesn't make the auto-renew obvious and you won't know it's there unti... See more
Very expensive for what it is. The main gripe about auto-renewal is easily fixed though. There are lots of real people but as with any dating site, the top 5% of men get almost 100% of the female att... See more
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Fraud. Useless. Total Waste.
1. when I was a free member, 12 girls liked me, sent me virtual gifts (that cheapest one costed 7000 credits for). And they were continuously viewing my profile every 3 nights (one of them called fifi1919, every night) until I paid 140 quid for 4 weeks subscription.
2. I first contacted fifi, she neither replied nor viewed my profile later. Then I contacted my other admirers, out of other 11, 8 didn't replied anything (the same profiles how sent me gifts and likes), 2 communicated kindly (for 2 messages) and didn't continue more and 1 replied with a sheepish smile (meaning we're convinced that you're fooled baby)
3. Female members provide no picture. Profile descriptions mostly generated by site auto generator and sounds similar for the most. Most of users are married, and do not look eager enough.
4. The friend of my wife was a user there; I couldn't spot her since she didn't had a picture. She contacted my whatsapp to amuse herself, but she didn't proceed further.
5. during my 7 weeks subscription (I opted for 3 extra weeks in their promotion) I got 9 profile views from members whom I sent my key to my private gallery (compared to free 12 views above before my subscription).
6. one day before my subscription ends, one profile replied me with an appealing question, so my subscription finished and I couldn't reply. (actually not a problem to me as I know this pattern very well.)
7. and after my subscription finished I am receiving messages every week. (I can't read them as a free member)
8. The site is operated by two people: Sara Hartley (admin) and Sam (who is able to copy paste terms and conditions in replies otherwise refers to Sara when is back in office)

Reply from Illicitencounters
Lots of time wasters
I’ve used this site a few times since 2012 and have had 3 affairs from it, so it does work. BUT I’d say only about 10% of the women on the site are genuine. Lots don’t exist, you can tell by the emails you get and the majority of women who are real aren’t interested in having an affair. From talking to c20 on the phone they just want attention. They want compliments and to feel special, they want their egos boasted basically, they are pretty dull to be honest and just want some escapism from dull lives. In total I’ve spoke to about 30 (the above 20 and 10 more who are genuinely interested in an affair) on the phone and had email exchanges with c100 others. That’s produced 3 affairs. Don’t use the site anymore. It’s very expensive for men and free for women hence the level of time wasting women.

Reply from Illicitencounters
It works if you work at it
Firstly, I'm definitely not an employee of IE and this is a genuine review. As others have said, the majority of women on here are intelligent and demand respect. That means creating an interesting profile, reading theirs thoroughly, and contacting them politely. It's probably one of the best affairs dating sites there is - I've used it once before and returned for a second time, but it has its faults. Firstly, if you sign up for free you can't read or send messages and it's true you are contacted by loads of bots or false profiles, all from women like boobylicious or other ridiculous names, who disappear completely when you sign up and pay your subscription. So don't be drawn in by them. It's sad the site feels it has to do this, but we are where we are.
Women don't tend to respond to winks, the only tool you have as a free member to contact them. But if you're patient a few genuine women will find you and maybe send a message. They did with me. One trick is if you wait long enough, IE will let you view one message for free. You can pick one that seems genuine and read it before signing up. I've done that and it works, if only to reassure you there are genuine women out there. No word of a lie, I talked to more than ten women in less than a fortnight by contacting them politely and without pressurizing. Some of these translated into genuine meetings, and one into an actual affair (I was only seeking one). I'm in conversation with a number of women at the moment for when Lockdown ends. So, it works, but you have to put work into it, and it has its faults, but, though inordinately expensive, it is far better than many of the others out there.
And as for the continuous payment issue - just contact them at any time during your paid membership to cancel it and it's done at once.

Reply from Illicitencounters
I've actually been using IE on and off…
I've actually been using IE on and off for the past few years and it's for sure one of the best sites of its kind. I'd definitely say you get what you put in when it comes to online dating and IE in particular, if you're just going to send a message to 5 people in 4 weeks then obviously you're going to be pretty limited when it comes to finding success. Each time I've used IE I've gotten to know some really lovely ladies. Having upgraded over the last year of lockdown, you'd think things would have quietened down, but actually I've got some dates lined up post-lockdown which I'm chuffed about. Customer service is fast and efficient. And yes, they do autorenew membership, but in all fairness they do actually state this and I've always cancelled before the next payment was due, so no complaints there for me!

Reply from Illicitencounters
You’d have to be REALLY desperate
The deal - Men pay for membership, women don’t. As a man, if u don’t pay for full membership (& initially when you do) you’ll get messages from ladies. Their profile pics will tempt & their words tease. You’ll get the conversation going but it’ll soon drift off & the responses will stop. That’s ok, because there are also some ‘real’ women who you can engage with. But here’s the problem - they haven’t paid (as you have) so have made no ‘real’ commitment to wanting an affair. Amongst the types are window shoppers (just curious), those lacking self-esteem (looking for compliments only), teasers (no intention of wanting an affair but like the suggestion it will progress that far) & quite a few who like the idea of an affair but who would run a mile if it ever got close. Yes, there are also a small no of genuine ladies, too, & if you have physical & emotional connection (& they live within a reasonable distance) then you MIGHT progress to an affair (NB: there are also quite a few looking for stuff that is probably best served on a specialist site). Not sure what the odds are that you’ll find a good ‘un but you’re welcome to have a go. It’ll cost repeated fees because it will take a lot of messaging & questions & silences & being told how rubbish men are.. (& thats before you actually get to see what the lady looks like). I won’t be using the site again - it has a purpose & a use but it’s mostly a money making exercise, designed to extract cash from married men who are prime candidates for having their frustrations & desires exploited.

Reply from Illicitencounters
Crooks who will rip you off!
They are simply crooks. When you sign up the keep hitting your credit card with automatic renewals. There is no way to cancel unless you email them.
They rely on the fact that people will be too embarrassed to complain. Beware of these scammers. They will rip you off!

Reply from Illicitencounters
Not worth the money !
I joined this site last year for 6 week's I hardly had a reply.
I then cancelled my subscription as soon as I cancelled I changed the wording in my profile which was checked by them and passed.
I then changed it again this week and the wording was declined far enough so I put it back to how it was it was still declined. Obviously not all staff singing from the same hymn sheet.
Since cancelling I receive at least one message a day which is strange.
I can't see these messages unless I upgrade again to see if they real.
Plus the subscription cost is extortionate for what they offer.
Even in lockdown they offerg you 4 weeks for £99 a lot of money when not working.
My advice is there are hundreds of these sites on the internet I would give them a go first.

Reply from Illicitencounters
I’ve been on this site twice and met…
I’ve been on this site twice and met some good friends and lovers.
I recommend it, however you should be aware that you get a high proportion of intelligent men and women on this site and you need to up your game and work on your profile to stand out. Expect to have to contact around 100 women before you have a successful meeting.
Note also that they use auto-renewal which seems to surprise many guys, hence the many bad reviews. The easiest way to cancel subscriptions is just to contact their user support.
Present yourself well, be honest and describe what you want in a woman and you will succeed.

Reply from Illicitencounters
Seems OK just super expensive and probably not worth it
I've never had a paid subscription so this review is based on what I saw as a free customer.
Profiles seemed genuine - a few fakes here and there but nothing special. Women slightly too old for my taste, mostly 45+. The subscription was just way way way too high to make it worth. There are far better cheaper (if not free) options out there.

Reply from Illicitencounters
Disappointing but efficient
Tried the site for about a year. Did have numerous conversations, but the pandemic made a huge difference to people's willingness to meet. It's also obvious that because it is free for women, that very large numbers of women stay on the site but never look at messages or respond. I agree with another reviewer who suggested that women should be charged for staying the site. This is highly unlikely to happen, of course, because it would impact on the number they can claim are on there.

Reply from Illicitencounters
Best affairs website
I have used IE several times over the years and found the site very professional and very good value. It may seem expensive but the members on the whole are genuine and fakes are not tolerated.
I think it is the best website of it's type and if an affair is what you want this is the place to be.

Reply from Illicitencounters
Actually one of the only sites with…
Actually one of the only sites with genuine people on it. Found what I was looking for and gained a great insight into a crazy dating world. Definitely Recommend.

Reply from Illicitencounters
There are some genuine lovely ladies there....
I placed a review here some 2 years ago, and although I am no longer on IE, just out of curiosity I do look here from time to time to read what experiences other guys have had. Maybe I was lucky but I had no issues with the site. My profile was upfront, not overly wordy and slightly humourous. Yes you have to be aware of the auto renewal and yes I am sure there are a number of fakes on here but most of those are pretty much very obvious. Im an ordinary down to earth guy in his 60's and over 6 or 7 years or so I have met a number of different ladies 2 of which are still very good friends who I chat and catch up with on a regular basis and another wonderful lady who I have been in a relationship for 4 years. The site does exactly what it says but you have put some effort into it and just be yourself as there are some genuine lovely ladies out there.

Reply from Illicitencounters
Sucess
I had been on the site 5 weeks and have found someone I have got on with very well. Excellent site

Reply from Illicitencounters
Warning! Big Scam! Warning! Big Scam!
Do not fall for this scam. It's very easy to get lured with 'special offers' but you are unwittingly and unwillingly signing for the continuous monthly subscription without knowing. So if you do not keep an eye on your bank statements, it may be months before you realise that you've been charged a fortune for nothing. And if you contact support, you're just fobbed off. This 'business' should be investigated by the serious fraud office as I am sure there are hundreds or even thousands of men that fell for this scam. Do not be another one!

Reply from Illicitencounters
It is what it said on the tin!
It is what it said on the tin but you need to be patient In finding what your looking for. I've had a couple of meets one compatible. Frustrating when you start chatting and then men become deleted user is this because they haven't subscribed? On the whole though its definitely the best site I've tried.

Reply from Illicitencounters
Don’t waste your time and money
Since the start of this year, I’ve tried both IE and AM. I don’t know how these sites are still operating because they’re a total scam. But I guess you get fools coming along who think they may actually have a chance to chat and meet real women. There may be some genuine women on the site but the amount of fake profiles mean its impossible to tell who’s genuine or not. Oh and watch out for the automatic monthly renewal. That’s another £99 that I didn’t even realise I agreed to.
From now on, I’ll stick to the free sites like HUUSH and pof.

Reply from Illicitencounters
Women are not real
I’m currently on IE for the third time. Previous subscriptions yielded lots of conversations but very few ‘meets’. I accept that and realise women have a choice.
What I have found really galling this time is the dearth of profile views after sending a message. If the women on the site are real then they have become almost clairvoyant. Jus seems odd that messages are completely disregarded without so much as a cursory view.
There are other issues. When my previous subscription ended I received more ‘messages’ than when I was active. Also very odd.
Now it appears there are hordes of new women members. Sometimes 10 a day. I message many with the same result as I mentioned previously. Also extremely odd.
The site is also exploited by scammers. Women who are certainly not in this country.
I am sure there are some real women on the site but I believe the majority don’t exist. The so called new members, many with profiles which seem familiar, certainly are not real and I believe them to be generated by IE to encourage continued subscriptions.
Very disappointing and exploitative site.

Reply from Illicitencounters
A great site that delivers what it…
A great site that delivers what it promises. If you are prepared to put the effort into making your profile interesting, readable, honest, grammatically correct and straightforward then you will find what you are looking for. When contacting potential dates you need to read their profile carefully and ensure your replies match what they want. Don't pressurise and be patient.

Reply from Illicitencounters
A lot of men get scammed
A lot of men get scammed by a rolling agreement to pay £99 a month after your registration expires. You have to scroll down a long way to see the small print. If you don't know about this, you will certainly get suckered. For those who have been robbed in this way, I advise going to the fraud department of your bank. They got me a refund.
A second negative is that the service is free for women, so they have no incentive to withdraw their profile when no longer interested, or feel any pressure to find a partner.

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